Why I'm Intentionally Doing Things That Make Me Uncomfortable

Growth has become a buzzword. I mean, everyone wants to grow.

Everyone wants more confidence, better relationships, a fulfilling career, and a life that feels aligned.

But very few of us are willing to consistently put ourselves in situations that require us to become someone different.

Lately, I've been reading two books that challenged the way I think about rejection and discomfort.

Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang tells the story of intentionally seeking rejection, not because rejection is the goal, but because our fear of it quietly shapes so many of our decisions.

At the same time, I started reading Go for No, which teaches that success isn't built by avoiding "no." It's built by becoming someone who is no longer controlled by it.

Those books made me stop and ask myself...

Where am I still allowing discomfort to make my decisions for me?

The answer surprised me.

It wasn't in obvious places.

It was in small moment...

Sometimes Growth Doesn't Feel Like Growth 

If you watched Episode 2, you probably noticed I gave myself a D.

Not exactly the inspiring ending people expect LOL.

But that's kind of the point of this series. I'm not just documenting my wins.

I'm documenting what happens when I intentionally put my nervous system into situations that feel uncomfortable and then pay attention to what it does.

This week's challenge was a fashion show.

Now, if you know me, fashion shows aren't really my thing. I don't dislike them, they just don't spark my interest. But someone in my family was participating, and I wanted to support her.

So I went.

Within about five to ten minutes, my nervous system wanted to leave. I mean granted, I wasn't thrilled about going anyway but I psyched myself up for it. 

Nothing bad happened. No one was rude. No one made me feel unwelcome.

There wasn't some dramatic moment. I just... wanted out.

Now, years ago, I probably would've listened to that feeling without ques...